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4 Ways that our attitudes toward our parents reflect our attitudes toward God. Let's heed Scripture's commands.

Recently a Christian told me, "If you knew MY parents, you'd understand why I don't honor them."

This attitude is prevalent in our culture - and is increasing among Christians, whether they openly admit it or not.

But God doesn't give us the power to decide when to apply His commands, and He offers no exceptions to His fifth commandment.

Whether we like it or not, our attitude toward our parents reflects our attitude toward God. 

1. When we refuse to move past our family difficulties, we doubt God's ability to use all things for good (Romans 8:28).

2. When we judge our parents harshly without taking responsibility for our sins, we become hypocrites (Matthew 7:1-4).

3. When we refuse to forgive our parents, we become bitter (Ephesians 4:31-32).

 4. When we ignore the command "Honor your father and mother" (Ephesians 6:2-3), we damage our well-being (Exodus 20:1-17).

Even if you aren't neglecting, rejecting or resenting your parents, examine your heart and ask God if you're truly honoring them.

Note: This devotion does not address children who have been physically or sexually abused by parents. They must seek godly Christian counsel in handling their relationship with their parents.

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4 Ways that our attitudes toward our parents reflect our attitudes toward God. Let's heed Scripture's commands.
I strongly encourage you to do the short Bible study with this devotion. You'll find it HERE.
And check out these other helpful 1-minute devotions on this subject: 
3 Aspects of Honoring Parents

Honoring God

Adult Children and Parents

Speck Finders

Absalom & David

Takers & Givers

The Most Underestimated Command

Give & Gain, Keep & Lose

Devotions specific to mothers and in-laws:
Bless Your Mother-in-law to Strengthen Your Marriage
Every Day is Mother's Day
Giving Mom Grace
Reckless Abandon - C.T. Studd

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  1. this is one of things I often struggle with ! yes we all should honor our parents.... but what if one has been badly abuse even as a very little child ? how can you honor them ? as I became older I learned to forgive and even had back contact.... but how can I honor them ? I did helped later on and truly forgave with my whole hart.. but honor ? not sure how to do that ! but I am willing to learn, so every tip is more than welcome

    1. Dear Unknown,
      I'm so sorry for your abuse and I'm so grateful that you have been able to forgive.

      I don't have an answer for you, but I know that God wants to give you wisdom so you can obey His command to honor parents. Remember, it isn't because parents are worthy but because God is worthy and He commands it.

      I pray for you as I write this that God will give you wisdom, strength, and supernatural power to fulfill His purposes in your relationship with your parents.

    2. I know some time has passed, but I understand. My mum is narcissistic, and gaslighted and physically abused me from toddlerhood, into my late forties when I went non contact. She still plays her mind games by turning all my family into enablers or as psychologists refer to them as flying monkeys. She was nice to my eldest two kids , so I mistakenly let her see them unsupervised. I moved 300 miles away as soon as I realised she was grooming them to mistreat me in the same way she did with my sister. I was too late and once they were old enough she wormed/bought her way back into their lives and attacked me via them. She sees my youngest 2-3 times a year and never unsupervised. I have forgiven her, but that does not mean I allow abuse to continue anymore. My pastor told me to stay away from her, and honouring her means only acknowledging she brought me into the world, it does not mean I owe her anything. Giving her honour and respect she has not earned and allowing her to cause more damage would be to dishonour Christ's Spirit within me. I pray for her as I do any enemy, I harbour no bitterness, nor curse her, but how can I honour her for what she is not ? She is no parent, she birthed me , dressed me until I could do it myself and cooked food my dad paid for. I honour her for that, but she has never shown me love or understanding or care or taught me how to treat others properly, she tried to make me hate others as much as she does. Do not worry, as long as you forgive, let go and move on, you are not dishonouring God.

    3. What does honoring actually means? I'm a 12 years old girl...but how would I honor my mother? The same as you I'm physically and emotionally abuse. But I always forgive my mom. But how would I honor my mother?

    4. Anonymous,
      If you are being physically abused, you need to contact authorities.

  2. Good article and understandable comments as well. Peace and love to all of you.