If a father said he'd obey Ephesians 6:4 (nurturing his children in the Lord), but only if his children proved worthy, we'd tell him God's commands aren't negotiable.
But when Father's and Mother's Day rolls around, I'm reminded how often I've heard people justify their disrespect and neglect of their parents because they've deemed their parents unworthy.
When they do this, they not only judge their parents, they judge God and His commands (Ephesians 6:2; Matthew 15:1-9).
They base their obedience on their perspective (which is usually hindered by a log - Matthew 7:1-4) and underestimate the purposes and effects of God's commands (Isaiah 55:8-9).
Obeying God's command to honor our parents is about our obedience and trust in God, not about our parents' goodness.
Let's quit making excuses, Dear Christians, and start honoring those God says to honor. God knows what He's doing and He promises to bless those who obey Him (Ephesians 6:2-3).
Footnote: We may need boundaries with parents who are physically abusive or mentally ill, but God still expects us to honor them. God knew when He gave the command that not all parents were worthy of honor, but He made no exceptions.
I believe disrespect for parents in the Christian community has led to great damage in all areas of our walk and our witness. That's why I often write about it. Please see related posts in the Honoring Parents Archive. Why not think of one way you can improve your relationship with your parents and act on it today.