3 Ways to Comfort

2 Corinthians 1:3-5, Psalm 69:20, Romans 12:15, helping a friend
"So often people suffer alone because we lack the comforting skills that will give us the confidence to be comforters." Susan Hunt 

Do you know how to respond to a hurting friend? Most of us don't unless we've gone through suffering ourselves (2 Corinthians 1:3-5). 

In Psalm 69:20, the Psalmist laments that he looked for comforters but found none--a common problem.

But this shouldn't happen! Here are some ways anyone can comfort:
  • Be available--Help with physical and emotional needs without making your friend feel they're imposing on your schedule. 
  • Be non-judgmental--Most of us are arrogant enough to think we understand why someone is suffering. We must avoid the trap of becoming a "Job's friend." 
  • Be a listener, not a "fixer"--Too often we think we need to give advice when we simply need to listen, comfort and pray: "Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn." Romans 12:15 
What other tips have you learned about comforting and being comforted? I'd love to have you leave them in a comment.


  1. Gail, thanks for this! I'm afraid I am too quick to offer solutions to the problems and not only listen to my friends. I appreciate you reminding me of the scripture in Romans to rejoice when it's time for that and mourn during such a time and just let the friend know we care and are concerned. Seems when I'm quick to offer advice, maybe they start to turn away from me because I sound insensitive to their need of being heard.
    Thanks for opening my eyes to this!
    Sister in Him,

    1. Hi Etta,
      I've been right there with you. Until I went through some difficulties in my life, I actually thought my friends were wanting advice when they shared a problem. But, when I was struggling with problems, I so appreciated the friends who just listened and prayed for me because the ones giving advice often didn't understand the situation fully. I'm glad this was helpful.
      Have a blessed day,


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