tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2538057051911243767.post6759891425674573832..comments2024-03-23T23:55:50.572-04:00Comments on Bible Love Notes: 3 Ways to Comfort Friends Who Are HurtingGail @ http://biblelovenotes.comhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17462629145629813283noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2538057051911243767.post-43173385782933197042020-01-26T15:14:00.744-05:002020-01-26T15:14:00.744-05:00Good Council !!!!Good Council !!!!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05824372892615884671noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2538057051911243767.post-17700711839129278752019-03-29T07:09:37.827-04:002019-03-29T07:09:37.827-04:00Thanks for sharing these insights. When we have go...Thanks for sharing these insights. When we have gone through a difficulty, we can see what kind of responses are most helpful.<br /><br />Praise God that you are healed of your cancer. Don't let these discouraging looks and comments of others bring you down.<br /><br />God bless you!Gail @ http://biblelovenotes.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17462629145629813283noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2538057051911243767.post-1367381098358428202019-03-28T11:34:21.638-04:002019-03-28T11:34:21.638-04:00I have gone thru cancer twice. I found a number o...I have gone thru cancer twice. I found a number of friends who just avoided me as they didn't know what to say. It was more important to me for them to just say they didn't know what to say. I coveted their thoughts, cards and prayers. The lesson I took away from that experience is to ask hurting people - "How can I pray for you?" I'm surprised they open up and share things I would never have dreamed they were concerned about. I also find it's important to follow up not only really praying for that person but also sending a simple email, text or card. Last thing - My cancer treatments stopped two years ago. I'm doing well now. But it does bother me when people come up to me and ask me, "Health-wise. How are you doing?" When I tell them fine, they respond, "Really?" And they give me these puppy dog eyes looking sorrowful that they really believing my cancer was fatal and that it's just a matter of time before it kills me. Gets me anxious that maybe I'm not really OK. Maybe there is some cancer that I don't know about. Please just let me live as a normal person today. If I want to talk about it - I'll bring it up. Please don't keep reminding me for years afterwards! If I've told you I'm doing well health-wise, please don't ask every time you see me.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02225634592185586299noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2538057051911243767.post-29289052319289291602014-04-02T09:28:24.321-04:002014-04-02T09:28:24.321-04:00Hi Etta,
I've been right there with you. Until...Hi Etta,<br />I've been right there with you. Until I went through some difficulties in my life, I actually thought my friends were wanting advice when they shared a problem. But, when I was struggling with problems, I so appreciated the friends who just listened and prayed for me because the ones giving advice often didn't understand the situation fully. I'm glad this was helpful.<br />Have a blessed day,<br />GailGail @ http://biblelovenotes.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17462629145629813283noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2538057051911243767.post-20630980490773349932014-04-02T08:15:36.263-04:002014-04-02T08:15:36.263-04:00Gail, thanks for this! I'm afraid I am too qui...Gail, thanks for this! I'm afraid I am too quick to offer solutions to the problems and not only listen to my friends. I appreciate you reminding me of the scripture in Romans to rejoice when it's time for that and mourn during such a time and just let the friend know we care and are concerned. Seems when I'm quick to offer advice, maybe they start to turn away from me because I sound insensitive to their need of being heard. <br />Thanks for opening my eyes to this!<br />Sister in Him,<br />EttaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com