Little Big Things: 17 Ideas

“Sometimes when you look back, it’s the little things that were the big things.” 

Every evening when I was going through a difficult time, my husband left an encouraging card or note on my pillow so we could read it before we went to bed. This was a “little big thing” in our relationship. 

I did some research and found that experts consider these "little things" important in making a marriage healthy:

1. Compliments. 
2. Laughter. 

See the Merry Heart Collection of 1-minute devotions.

3. Doing things together! 

See 5 Ways to be your Husband's Girlfriend. 
4. Touch. 

See God's Design: Love Hormone.
5. Considerate communication. 

See 6 Rules of Speech.

But I thought they were a little too general, so I created my own list of more specific “little things”:

1. Leave him little love notes (in his lunch, under his pillow, in his pocket). 
2. Make sure you talk everyday. 
3. Occasionally do one of his errands—the one he really dislikes. 
4. Get rid of those old flannel grammy-jammies and sleep in something lacy. 
5. Always say please and thank-you. 

See A Little Politeness Goes a Long Way.

6. Thank him for being a good provider and don't complain about his income. 

See Unappreciated Provider.
7.  Make his favorites foods often. 
8. Praise him in front of others (and on Facebook).

9. Let Him know everyday that you find him attractive. 

See You Look Great!
10. Do something spontaneous and fun whenever possible. 

See Marriage Surprises.
11. Learn something about his favorite sport. 
12. Read a book together. 
13. Keep a journal of things you appreciate about him, and let him read it. 

14. Be quiet when he makes a mistake, especially if you “told him so.” 
15. Hold hands, hug, and snuggle. 
16. Give him a sweet nickname. 

17. Ask his forgiveness when you do something wrong.

See How to Say "I'm Sorry."

As Christians we know that little acts of faithfulness matter to our Lord, and they matter in our marriage as well:
"Whoever can be trusted with very little can also be trusted with much, and whoever is dishonest with very little will also be dishonest with much." Luke 16:10

Now it’s your turn…leave your ideas of "little big things" in a comment.  

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