Every evening when I was going through a difficult time, my husband left an encouraging card or note on my pillow so we could read it before we went to bed. This was a “little big thing” in our relationship.
Thinking about that situation, I did some research and found that experts considered these "little things" that make a marriage good:
1. Compliment and encourage your spouse.
2. Find things to laugh about.
3. Do things together: shared activities, a weekly date night.
4. Take time to touch each other.
5. Communicate considerately and respectfully.
But I thought they were a little too general, so I created my own list of more specific “little things”:
6. Leave him little love notes (in his lunch, under his pillow, in his pocket).
7. Make sure you talk everyday.
8. Occasionally do one of his errands—the one he really dislikes.
9. Get rid of those old flannel grammy-jammies and sleep in something lacy.
10. Always say please and thank-you.
11. Thank him at least once a week for being a good provider.
12. Don’t complain about his income.
13. Make his favorites foods often.
14. Praise him in front of others (and on facebook).
15. Let him know everyday that you find him attractive.
16. Do something spontaneous and fun whenever possible.
17. Learn something about his favorite sport.
18. Read a book together.
19. Keep a journal of things you appreciate about him, and let him read it.
20. Be quiet when he makes a mistake, especially if you “told him so.”
21. Hold hands in church.
22. Give him a nickname.
As Christians we know that little acts of faithfulness matter to our Lord, and they matter in our marriage as well:
"Whoever can be trusted with very little can also be trusted with much, and whoever is dishonest with very little will also be dishonest with much." Luke 16:10
Now it’s your turn…leave your ideas of "little big things" in a comment.
Resources: 10 Little Things; Little Things; 25 Tips to Staying Married
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