1. Talk together every day.
My husband isn’t quiet, but neither is he one who often shares his feelings. I’ve learned I have to draw him out at times and really listen to what he says. I need to remember to James 1:19 with him.
2. Find mutual interests.
Here’s some things my husband and I have done/do:
- There was a time when my husband and I played a game of UpWord every time he came home for lunch. It was our friendly competition.
- For the last 20 years, my husband and I have read books aloud together. Usually he does the reading and I listen. We’ve read Grisham novels, the Midford Series, and even classics like The Count of Monte Cristo. There’s something special about sharing a good story. (We’ve tried reading teaching books together, but haven’t found as much pleasure in that. So we typically read those separately)
- We travel and explore together… When we are in Budapest (where we do Christian work part of each year), we take walks to discover new areas of the city. And we love to travel together.
Healthy marriages typically include good-hearted teasing and even some private jokes.
4. Show affection regularly, not just during times of intimacy. I love to take my husband’s hand when we walk.
5. Be polite to each other. It’s easy to take each other for granted, but my husband and I try to say please and thank-you and ask things of each other, not command them.
Like every good friendship, your marriage relationship needs to be improved and developed. How are you a good girlfriend to your husband? Leave a comment so we all can benefit from your ideas.
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