Men Are Not Women

Marriage, male and female differences
Seems like a silly title doesn’t it? But sometimes we miss the obvious.

Our husbands often have an unusual perspective on things, an odd way of processing information, a strange way of responding to our comments…from our female perspective.

What was he thinking? How did he come up with that? How does he always manage to say the "wrong" thing?

Our real problem: We forget our husbands aren’t women!! We get frustrated with our differences instead of embracing them. 

There's nothing wrong with wanting female feedback. We just need to remember we won't get it from our husbands. That's why we need girlfriends!* 

Our husbands will never think and act and understand things exactly the way we do. God designed them that way. It took me a while to grasp this truth (and I still need to remind myself of it occasionally). But the fact is this: I AM SO GLAD MY HUSBAND IS A MAN! I'm sure you feel the same about yours.

So, when the masculine mind confuses, frustrates, perplexes, and annoys us, we can remember that it also intrigues, guides, inspires, and excites us.

Thank you, Lord, for creating male and female. Thank you for the unique and sometimes ‘illogical’ differences between us. Help my husband enjoy my differences, and help me enjoy his!

So God created human beings in his own image.
In the image of God he created them;
male and female he created them.
Genesis 1:27, NLT 
*Titus 2 encourages us to have female relationships.

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  1. My husband is currently at home (I work full time) and he simply doesn't see things that need to be done, such as the washing. I asked a few times to do things but he would forget as he was too busy on other things . In the end I stopped asking as I realized he just didn't see things the same as me, just as you are describing .

    1. I think the key is not taking it personally when he doesn't see things that seem obvious to you...and not getting frustrated if you have to keep reminding him.

      But don't give up : )

      If you're working full time and he's currently at home, I think it's reasonable for him to help. Have you thought of giving him a call from work and asking him to throw in a load? Or what about leaving him a little love note with a laundry reminder p.s.?

      I encourage you to ask God to give your female mind a solution that will speak to your husband's male mind. : )

  2. Excellent point! It is good to remember that God created mankind Male and Female on purpose for a variety of reasons! God perfectly creates women in general to complete and compliment men in general. Specifically, a man has to find THE WOMAN who God created to complete and compliment him! Then, these two are better together than separately!

  3. This is so very true! I get frustrated at times because he doesn't want to talk to me like my girlfriends do...but then I start thinking, "would I really want him to?"

    I agree that we need to celebrate the differences between us, and not look for things we wish he would do differently. I'm definitely glad he's a man!

  4. Truer words were never spoken!! We were most certainly created differently and that is something for which I am extremely thankful!

  5. What a beautiful reminder! I love reading your blog, always full of wisdom!

  6. Very true. thanks for sharing your thought. (I am over from the pieces of Amy blog hop) Have a great weekend.

  7. true it is! Thank you for the sweet reminder and for sharing it at WJIM.

  8. Love this post, Gail. In fact, for my Marital Oneness Mondays link up I'll be featuring a favorite post of mine and I'll be starting with yours, my dear friend! It'll go live tomorrow, Sunday night @8pmish Pacific Standard time. Just wanted to give you the heads-up.

  9. Great post! So grateful for God's omniscience. He knew much better than 'us girls', (even though 'us girls' think we know it all sometimes) that we need the male perspective.

  10. Wonderful reminder! It's easy to forget oddly enough...

  11. Gail,
    It was freeing for both of us when God brought female friends into my life to fill up all those spaces my husband was incapable of filling. . . What a gift female friendship is. I'm so glad you are one of the amazing women I get to call friends :)

  12. I am so grateful that my husband is a man. That being said, I do wish he could see the things that need done at home when he is off work :)


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