5 Fun, Special, Unique, and Biblical Ways to Show Your Spouse Love

In a previous post Understanding Different Ways to Express Your Love, I discussed ways that my husband and I express our love differently.

Years ago, Gary Chapman’s best seller The 5 Love Languages laid out specific ways people show their love.

From my experiences as a wife of 50+ years, I think it's too simplistic to assign one love language to each person. Early in our marriage, my husband and I probably exhibited more obvious love language preferences. But over time we've matured, mellowed, and melded in ways that make it harder to fit us into a box. 

But it's still helpful to look at the 5 love languages Chapman identified as different ways we can express our love for our spouse in different seasons of life. For example, the mom of toddlers and the empty-nester have different desires.

As Ecclesiastes 3:1-8 says, “For everything there is a season, a time for every activity under heaven.”

So here's some ideas:

1. Words of Affirmation--1 Thessalonian 5:11

• Create a wall hanging for your bedroom with words and phrases that express your spouse’s good qualities. The easiest way to do this is to type it on the computer, print it, and put it in a frame. But use your creativity!
• Buy a handsome journal and hand-write specific things you appreciate about your spouse with personal examples. Add something at least once a week and share it often.
• Each night before bed, tell him/her something they did that you appreciate. 
• See the one-minute devotion Our Words Matter. 

2. Acts of Service--Philippians 2:3-4

• Create a coupon book with acts of service your spouse especially enjoys. Mine would include manicures because my husband loves to have me file his nails. What would your spouse enjoy?
• Help with your spouse with his/her chores on occasion or take care of a task he/she especially dislike. 

3. Gifts

• Sacrifice something you'd like and save the money you would have spent for a special gift for your spouse.
• If your spouse enjoys quantity more than quality, fill a wicker laundry basket with scores of small, inexpensive gifts.
• Put thought into whatever you give and be sure to include some gifts that encourage faith (e.g. a devotional, Christian book, praise music, new Bible, etc.). 
• Give your spouse a “coupon book” for massages, back rubs, his/her favorite dessert, or a romantic movie night. 

4. Quality Time--Ecclesiastes 9:9, Proverbs 31:10-12

• Give your spouse a “get-away” even if it’s simply arranging for a friend to watch your children for the weekend while you stay at home, snuggle, read together, hang out, and talk.
• Spend time each evening to share the good and bad points of the day. And pray afterwards.
• Take time each day (whatever time works best) to read a devotion or Bible passage together.  
• See the one-minute devotion Encouragement: We Need It.

5. Physical Touch

• Don't let a day go by without hugging your spouse and giving him/her a kiss. Hold hands when you take a walk.
• See the one-minute devotion Why Hugs Tell Us Something About Our Wonderful Creator. 

Now it's time to share your ideas in the comment section. 

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