Name-Calling is for Losers

A Habit that damages relationships

Note: My title is tongue-in-cheek, an oxymoron - I realize it's name-calling.

“Name-calling” wreaks havoc with relationships. But it’s the way many people deal with disagreements.

It happens in formal debates and personal relationships when people start attacking the character of others instead of sincerely listening to them and responding to their concerns.(1)

It always puts an end to reasonable, respectful discussion and makes problem-solving and reconciliation almost impossible.

People who do it are following the example of Satan, who's called the "accuser" of God's people in Revelation 12:10.(2)

When God convicts us of sin, He points out specific things we’re doing wrong so we can change and follow Him more closely. That's constructive criticism.(3)

When Satan accuses us, he uses generalizations attempting to make us feel like hopeless losers. That's destructive criticism. 

Let’s never resort to name-calling even if others do.

A Habit that damages relationships
"Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen." ~ Ephesians 4:29 
(1) God expects us to "go the extra mile," acknowledge the concerns of others, and to do our best to resolve problems. Name-calling prevents the "iron-sharpening-iron" process in conflict resolution. (Proverbs 27:17; Matthew 5:21-24; 41; Romans 12:18).
(2) See also 1 Peter 5:8.
(3) It's appropriate to give fellow believers constructive criticism, but we should do it gently, never with name-calling. Godly correction involves specific examples, not broad generalizations. See Matthew 18:15; 1 Corinthians 5:12; James 5:19-20.

For some other 1-minute devotions on godly speech:
6 Christian Rules of Speech
Shine Like Stars

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