How to Respond When You're Called a "Hater"

Why calling Christians "Haters" is bigotry: 4 ways it's dishonest and hypocritical
How can we handle being accused of things we've not done and attitudes we don't have? 

One of the shame tactics used by LBGTQ advocates is the claim that LBGTQ persons suffer needless depression and suicide due to rejection, bullying, and mistreatment of Christians. 

False Claim

I'm not denying that LBGTQ persons suffer when bullied or mistreated, but Christians are not responsible.

There are non-representative fringe elements in every group, but the vast majority of Christians do not bully or mistreat LBGTQ persons. Genuine Christians who believe God's warnings against LBGTQ lifestyles also believe God’s instructions to treat others with grace and kindness. 

Simplistic Conclusions 

These claims against Christians are not substantiated. Are LBGTQ persons more depressed and suicidal due to bullying or because they are made in the image of God and in their heart of hearts they know that their lifestyle goes against God's loving design (Romans 1:20)? 

They may offer “scientific” studies to prove their claims, but when people start with an agenda, their studies are seriously flawed. 

But the bottom line is this: even if bullying causes the depression and suicides of LBGTQ persons, it's a rare situation when Christians are doing the bullying. If Christians are going to be held responsible for these rare cases, then all LBGTQ persons should be held responsible for gays who molest children.

So How Should Christians Respond? 

The 4 points below can help us respond when someone calls Christians "haters."

1. Christian views are not hateful.

The Bible warns us of sins which damage our souls. If I believe with all my heart that homosexuality damages someone, I'm hateful if I remain silent.

2. Negative stereotyping is bigoted and hypocritical.

Negatively stereotyping all Christians based on rare examples of those who are unkind to gays is no different than negatively stereotyping all gays based hateful examples.

3. Name-calling is a demeaning tactic of the intolerant.

Instead of simply admitting that Christians don't approve of LBGTQ lifestyles, Christians are called "haters."  

If Christians are haters for disapproving LBGTQ beliefs, then LBGTQ people are haters for disapproving ours.  

Scripture teaches us to treat others as we want to be treated, but it doesn't demand that we approve of everything they do (Matthew 7:12). Christians can love people with whom we strongly disagree. Can LBGTQ persons love people with whom they strongly disagree?

4. Christians are more often the victims of bullying, not the other way around.

While bullying LBGTQ persons is disapproved by the vast majority of Christians and the culture at large, bullying Christians is gaining approval, especially among LBGTQ advocates.

Our government, the press, and a vocal majority in our world support and favor LBTQ beliefs and reject Christian beliefs.

Christians are not promoting any measures that limit LBGTQ freedom of speech, nor are we seeking to force their organizations to hire people who disagree with their mission statements. But LBGTQ advocates are promoting laws that hinder our freedom of speech and force Christian ministries to hire people who disagree with our biblical principles.(1) 

In addition, I frequently hear Christians stress kind and gracious treatment of LBGTQ persons, but I have not heard of LBGTQ groups stressing kindness toward Christians. Instead, they continually create new words to insult us such as "transphobes" or "homophobes."

You will frequently find negative terms and negative stereotypes used in articles written by LBGTQ advocates. You won't find negative terms and negative stereotypes used in articles written by genuine believers. In fact, Christians articles are often censored from social media sites, not because they contain negative stereotypes but simply because they don't approve LBGTQ beliefs. 

When a culture resorts to "thought police," demanding that one set of beliefs be tolerated and other beliefs prohibited, it is the beginning of the end of that culture.


(1) They advocate laws that would make biblical counseling illegal for persons struggling with their sexuality, even minor children (source). 

For a thorough understanding of the biblical view of homosexuality, see these resources:

Biblical Teaching on Homosexuality (a collection of short devotions) 

What the Bible Teaches about Transgenderism

Gay Revisionist Arguments (a collection addressing various false teachings used by gay revisionists)

Questions, Not Answers (the testimony of a former lesbian)

Bible Love Notes

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