I’ve had to admit this error when it comes to the false philosophy of self-esteem.
The devastating results are everywhere, and many secular psychologists that once supported the premise of building self-esteem are now recanting. Yet, most of us are still defending self-esteem philosophy as if it were Scripture.
But, before I go further, please let me stress that treating your children kindly and lovingly is godly. But teaching them they are wonderful is not.
For example, it's good to tell our children they are special to us. This builds their confidence in our love for them. But it's not good to tell our children they are special compared to others. This builds pride and arrogance.
Even though the self-esteem philosophy has been “Christianized” and accepted for many years, most of it is in direct opposition to the words of Scripture.
And that is why we are now experiencing problems with Generation Me, several generations of adults who are more arrogant, ungrateful, entitled, self-serving, and discontent than previous generations. Worst of all, an increasing number of narcissists are emerging, a dangerous trend indeed.
You may feel you haven’t bought into this philosophy, but I’m not sure I've ever met a Christian mom who hasn’t accepted at least some of the harmful principles.
And, even when we're confronted with the ways self-esteem philosophies violate Scripture, we have difficulty releasing them from our grasp. Why? Because they appeal to our human pride, and they permeate every aspect of American culture--music, entertainment, education, and church. We really have become convinced that building our child’s self-esteem is a Biblical key to his/her happiness, success, and godliness.
Read more in Parts 2-7 of this series.
A revolution has overtaken our philosophy of self, and only a band of hearty resistance-fighters will keep it from taking our children captive. Are you ready to join the resistance?
Part 2: Self-Esteem's Twisted Proverb
Part 3: Self-Esteem's Twisted Words of Christ
Part 4: Self-Esteem's Twisted Psalm
Part 5: The Old Testament Refutes Self-Esteem Philosophy
Part 6: Godly Nurture Does Not Promote High Self-Esteem
Part 7: Secular Studies Agree with the Bible
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