Before our daughter Nicole started babysitting, we set some rules: she couldn't sit in homes where there were occult practices, pornography, or drunkenness.
We loved her and didn't want her exposed to these things.
When a neighbor asked 12-year-old Nicole to watch her toddler once a week, it seemed perfect.
But Nicole returned from her first job discouraged.
"Mom, they have pornography. Please tell them I can't sit again."
My immediate reaction:
Was that rule necessary? Yes.
Could we simply make excuses and not explain our reasons to the family? No.
It was 30 years ago, but I vividly remember how nervous I was before I met with my neighbor, told her we were Christians and told her about the rules we'd made before Nicole began babysitting. I tried to be as kind and gentle as possible, and I made it clear I wasn't telling her and her husband what to read.
She didn't deny the pornography, but neither did she understand.
She wouldn't even say "hi" to me after that.
I look back and wonder if I could have done it better.
What would you have done in this situation?
Please leave your answers in a comment below so everyone can benefit. Thanks! Gail