Such a Pity, Not a Party

Overcoming self pity, God's help in overcoming self pitySelf pity: "excessive, self-absorbed unhappiness over one's own troubles."

Sometimes I allow it to take charge of my head and heart.

Not a good thing. Not a God thing.

It's not that I don't have reasons to be disappointed and even discouraged.

Paul said he was once so discouraged he felt he couldn't go on (2 Corinthians 1:8-10).

That's when he turned it all over to the Lord. 

And went on.

And that's what we must do with self-pity.

Self-pity is self-focused, self-indulgent, self-pandering, self-destructive.

It's sin.

God calls us to:
May the Lord help us do these things whenever self-pity enters our hearts. We are able through His mighty power, to accomplish infinitely more than we ask or imagine (Ephesians 3:20).


  1. God bless you. I love your devotionals

  2. Good morning!
    For something like the past year now I've subscribed to your devotionals, and they've been a blessing to me. Thank you for taking the time to perform this ministry to so many other Christians. I did have a note about this one though. You say that self-pity is excessive unhappiness over one's one troubles, and that self-pity is a sin, plain and simple. That may be, but, as someone struggling with major depressive disorder, I often find myself so completely unhappy with not just my circumstances, but who I am as a person, that I feel physically incapable of thinking about anything else. A good portion of my problem stems from knowing that I can't fulfill all of God's requirements and the idea that I'm constantly trying so hard and still doing worse as a Christian than any decent person would just be able to do. Is being so overwhelmed with self-hatred that I find myself physically unable to perform daily tasks, a sin? Is that another sin I'm committing that I feel myself unable to quell? Is there ever an escape from constantly failing in things I ought to be able to do easily, this side of Heaven?

    1. Hi friend,
      I'm sure you know I'm not a trained counselor. I write about things in my life that I'm dealing with or have dealt with, and I try to pass along the things I've learned.

      Perhaps what I've written doesn't apply to your situation, or maybe some of it does and some doesn't.

      I know God doesn't want you disabled with self-hatred. Scripture says He wants us to have a fair idea of ourselves, admitting our sins but recognizing our strengths (Romans 12:3).

      From my personal experiences with self-pity, discouragement, and depression (yes, I went through a 6 month period where I was depressed 24/7), the most important things I needed to do were

      1. Take my thoughts captive (2 Cor. 10:5)
      2. focus on the needs of others, not my own (Philippians 2:3-6).

      Again, this may not be what helps you, but I throw it out there in case it is.
      I'll also include some other devotions (linked below) that speak about some of the things I've mentioned.

      And I want you to know that I have said a prayer for you today and I've asked God to bring you to mind throughout the coming weeks.

      I am praying that God gives you His strength and confidence to do all that He has prepared for you to do, one day at a time (Ephesians 2:10).
      In Christ's love, Gail

      Same Old Lie:

      Balcony Views:

      Even Paul Despaired:

      Eat, Rest, Cry:

      Walk Away:

      Tell Yourself the Truth:

      He Lifts My Head:

      The Power of Negative Self-Talk:

  3. I think you addressed this well. There is a difference in depression and self-pity, in that depression is often a chemical balance and not a choice, though I truly believe that the Lord can bring us through anything. I also think we need to walk through periods of darkness and gain the wisdom they offer.


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