Trojan Horse Lie--Loving Self First

loving self, loving othersI rarely hear "love your neighbor as yourself" (Mark 12:31-32) without someone quickly adding, "but you can't love others until you first love yourself." 

Even though this principle isn't found in this or any passage of Scripture,* it's fully embraced by many Christians. 

Mark 12:31 doesn't command us to love our neighbor's personality or have warm feelings toward him. It commands us to treat him with the same kindness and consideration we instinctively show ourselves. 

Christianity is about putting God and others first, not putting ourselves first. And focusing on others is actually one of the most effective ways to overcome our own insecurities. (See Beatin' the Blues

Philippians 2:3-4 sums it up this way: "In humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others." 

"Loving ourselves first" appeals to our fallen human nature but it has no foundation in Scripture. 
* Twisting Scripture is a common ploy of Satan. (See Christ's temptation and insights on His temptation.)

This is the first lie in the Trojan Horse Enemy series. You can read the intro to this series HERE. If you want to study more Scripture related to self-love , check out my Self-Esteem Posts. You can do a 5 minute Bite Size Bible Study on this devotion HERE.





7 comments:

  1. A Christian psychologist that I recently heard speak at a ladies' conference requires her clients who are unemployed due to depression and anxiety to... get this... volunteer 40 hours a week. I about fell out of my chair! I thought I had misunderstood her, that maybe she said 4 or 14, but nope! She said 40. Her clients return to a productive life much more quickly than average.

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    1. Actually, this comment was supposed to go on "Beatin' the Blues". Oops!

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    2. Thanks for sharing this fact, Joanne. I think it's a great confirmation of this truth.
      Bless you,
      Gail

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  2. This is soooo true. Thanks for putting it out there. Blessings!

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  3. Help, I'm stuck! I'm married for the second time. Both of my marriages are/were "unbalanced." This is hard to put in writing without going into the whole story, but the common way of describing my situation is codependency. Does the Bible say anything about this problem, or is it ok to let myself be treated like a doormat?

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    1. Hi Diane, Being treated like a doormat is never appropriate. The hard part is resolving the situation as it can be multi-layered. I suggest you find a Christian woman or Christian couple in your church who have a good marriage and can guide you through this difficulty with prayer, advice and encouragement. I pray God will give you restoration and joy in your marriage.

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