Thursday

Harsh Remarks

In the 18 months I’ve been blogging, I’ve had hundreds of wonderful, encouraging, informative comments…and a handful of negative ones.

I’ve been blessed and inspired by the good comments, and even by a few of the negative ones.

There are typically two types of negative comments:
    1. Kind and thoughtful ones (rare)
    2. Unkind comments accusing me of being unkind
      2 Principles...been wanting to use this photo : )
      Despite the irony of the second type, I’ve still learned from a few of them by following the 2 principles below. And these principles apply to any criticism we receive in life:
      1. I try to not automatically assume I'm right.* Our hearts easily deceive us and we usually think too highly of ourselves (Jeremiah 17:9; Romans 12:3).
      2. I ask God for wisdom so I neither miss good correction or accept bad criticism (James 1:5; 1 Corinthians 4:3-4). This is the most difficult part and requires seeking the Lord and trusting Him, not ourselves or others. 
      Have you been recently criticized? I encourage you to apply these 2 principles.

      * I can get defensive at first, but I try to stop myself and think before I write. I don't do it perfectly, but I'm trying.
       
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      14 comments:

      1. In the world we live in today...the truth of the Word is 1) overlooked and not important 2} usually convicts and with that comes negative 3) and the know it all's..who have lots of "head knowledge" and no "heart knowledge". Just keep doing what you are doing....There are those who love your"one minute Bible notes..Blessings!

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      2. I wanted also to say, "I always learn something!" Blessings Again!

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      3. It's beautiful that you aren't quick to judgment and/or stuck with a hurt ego. Those passages are wonderful and very true.

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      4. I really like your advice because more than once I have been absolutely sure "I" am right only to find "I" am wrong!! I have learned from this, not to trust my 'rightness' and to take the criticism a bit better and with the Lord's help. I like the way you laid those two steps out so clearly.

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      5. Those are great principles! Often there is at least a nugget of truth in the harsh comments and we ALL tend to get defensive in those situations. Great advice!

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      6. Anyone who blogs deals with the trolls ruining the fun and pleasure now and then. You've certainly got the right attitude and perfect principles for when it happens to you. ♥
        Thank you for sharing!

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      7. Such wisdom, to ask God to help you discern each comment. I pray that too, for love for everyone we encounter here in this bloggersphere. May they see Jesus in us. Continually. Only. Not ourselves. Thanks for linking with UNITE!

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      8. Gail, I had a harsh comment recently from someone who said she was an atheist. Knowing that the truths of God's Word were "foolishness" to her because she was lost helped to put the comments in their proper perspective. Unkind comments from those in the faith are more challenging. You're wise to point out that even unkind comments can point out errors and blindspots we may not be aware of. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

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      9. I needed this! So badly! Thank you!

        Mary

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      10. Great post. It's easy to get defensive, so much more useful though to be teachable. Thanks for taking the time to provide the tips!
        Liz

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      11. Great subject to talk about. We'll all be getting criticism or negative comments at some time so how will we handle them? Thanks for writing this!

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