We Need It and Need to Give It: Forgiveness

Without God’s forgiveness, we would be headed for hell (Ephesians 1:7). If we genuinely understand that truth, we cannot help but forgive others (Matthew 18:21-35). 

Sadly, it’s all too common—especially with family members—to say we’ve forgiven someone while holding on to a list of their offenses. 

Whenever there’s tension, misunderstandings, or disagreement, we pull up the list in our thoughts or in conversation and “repeat the offenses.” It puts a stop to reconciliation and makes us feel superior. 

“Whoever covers an offense seeks love, but he who repeats a matter separates close friends.” Proverbs 17:9

We can't genuinely love someone unless we can forgive them and seek reconciliation. 

“Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.” 1 Peter 4:8

“Hatred stirs up conflict, but love covers over all wrongs.” Proverbs 10:12 

Bitterness is a type of hatred. It’s selfish and proud and assures that bad relationships never get better. In addition, it damages us more than the person we’ve chosen not to forgive.(1) 

It's an ugly root that strangles the love out of us (Hebrews 12:15). 

Forgiveness: we need it and need to give it.

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(1) See 4 Ways to Stop Drinking the Poison of Bitterness. If you are struggling with forgiveness, I encourage you to go through each of the 1-minute devotions in the Overcoming Bitterness collection and take time today to read Matthew 18:21-35. It can help you put things into proper perspective.

 

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