How should Christians handle unjust criticism?
For example, suppose someone accuses you of purposely trying to hurt or embarrass them.
1. Don’t go into defense mode (1 John 1:8).
We should never justify ourselves without honestly examining the complaint (Proverbs 18:13; James 1:19). If we ignore legitimate correction, we sear our conscience and lose our ability to discern right from wrong.
2. Consider if there are things you could have done better (Romans 12:3; 2 Corinthians 8:21).
Even if you didn't intentionally hurt someone, could you have worded something better, been more patient or careful? You can admit fault in these areas without saying your actions were intentional.
3. Show sympathy for hurt feelings (1 Peter 3:8).
“I’m sorry my remark hurt you.”
4. Don’t admit to things you haven’t done (Psalms 34:13).
It isn't honest or healthy to admit to things you haven't done, simply to keep the peace.
Even if the accusation is unjust, you can respond with honesty and humility.
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Paul is a godly example of someone who often faced unjust accusations. While his situations don't directly apply to our personal relationships, he still offers examples of some of the points above. Why not study Acts 21-28 and note the various aspects of Paul's defense and the opportunities these false accusations gave him. Sometimes God uses injustice for incredible good (Romans 8:28).
Bible Love Notes
Hi Gail. Thanks for this article. I wonder if you could check the reference for not admitting to things we haven't done as Proverbs only goes up to 31? Thanks
ReplyDeleteThank you so much! I just changed it. It was Psalm 34, not Proverbs. I always appreciate people correcting my mistakes!
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