Speaking His Love Language

The first Christmas after we were married, my husband and I were on a tight budget. He was a college student working part-time at a minimum wage job and I was a breakfast waitress working for tips. 

We decided to spend $15 on each other for Christmas. 

When Christmas morning arrived, my husband opened the best gift I could get him for $15 (I've always been a bargain hunter), and I opened my $50 leather jacket.

That’s when I discovered my husband’s primary love language. 

Through the years, I’ve learned not to say I admire something expensive in a store unless I want to receive it for a gift later.

Dr. Gary Chapman's 5 love languages identify "your emotional communication preference"-- the way you feel most loved and connected. They include:

1. Words of affirmation
2. Acts of Service
3. Receiving Gifts
4. Quality Time
5. Physical touch

He suggests that you discover you spouse's love language by asking yourself these questions:

1. How does he express love most often?
2. What type of things does he request most often?
3. What does he complain about most often?

Understanding your spouse's love languages helps you understand him/her better. If you'd like some gift suggestions for different love languages: Love Language Gift Ideas (this is not a sales post, just ideas).

You can answer a questionaire on Gary Chapman's site to help you define your love language:
5 Love Language with Gary Chapman

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