tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2538057051911243767.post8286064190564463121..comments2024-03-23T23:55:50.572-04:00Comments on Bible Love Notes: Why the Divorce Rate in 1900 Was Only 7%Gail @ http://biblelovenotes.comhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17462629145629813283noreply@blogger.comBlogger46125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2538057051911243767.post-46751880284102405502021-02-07T22:41:20.390-05:002021-02-07T22:41:20.390-05:00and it no longer takes years even for one when the...and it no longer takes years even for one when the spouse was caught . Social stigma is gone, and so many do not care to get married. btw we are going 41, it was for better or worse, there were worse times that dr said most woould have parted ie spuse major heart aqttack at 38, son traumatic brain injury, my ill health. For us these times are when we clung together for support,faith in God.normaehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18014529628704490878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2538057051911243767.post-31222122887057002032019-04-23T10:35:19.529-04:002019-04-23T10:35:19.529-04:00Hi Teresa,
I'm not sure I fully understand you...Hi Teresa,<br />I'm not sure I fully understand your comments, but the two verses you site are verses pertaining to marriage/divorce. The word "marital unfaithfulness" would be an accurate and appropriate translation, easily understood as adultery. And since fornication covers all forms of sexual immorality, it would have meant adultery when used to describe sexual sin in marriage. You can't have premarital sex while married. <br /><br />In addition, there are many other verses that speak against sex outside of marriage and all translations of Scripture accurately translate those verses, so thinking premarital sex was okay would mean only reading passages about marriage and ignoring all of the other information contained in Scripture, so I don't think any Bible translation contributed to the acceptance of premarital sex. <br /><br />Cultural influences and selfishness are responsible for the increase in both premarital sex, adultery, and divorce, not Bible translations.<br /><br />And in both Old and New Testaments, God forgave sexual sins based on the future redemption of Christ. The story of King David is an excellent example. Forgiveness and punishment are two separate concepts. God forgives those He punishes. Again, King David is an excellent example. Christians suffer consequences, discipline, and punishment for our sins even though we are forgiven (Hebrews 12:5-7).<br /><br />I may have missed some of what you were trying to say, but I thought those things needed to be addressed. Like you, I am also grateful for the Good News of Christ's atoning death.<br /><br />Gail @ http://biblelovenotes.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17462629145629813283noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2538057051911243767.post-85924095313810903022019-04-22T19:01:36.066-04:002019-04-22T19:01:36.066-04:00I believe that there were a combination of factors...I believe that there were a combination of factors. But I began to notice that as far as divorce/remarriage being "allowed" in the church, it happened to come soon after the NIV first came out in the 1970's and changed the verbage in Matt. 5:32 and Matt. 19:9 from "saving for the cause of fornication/except it be for fornication"(KJV) ... to ... "except for MARITAL UNFAITHFULNESS"(NIV). To the average Bible reader at that time, most, like myself, could have told you that the meaning of fornication was pre-marital sex (unfaithfulness before marriage). But now when we started reading this new translation with "marital unfaithfulness", it "sounded like" now, it really pertained to unfaithfulness only "in" marriage! Unfortunately, this was further from the truth as we are now finding out. For one, fornication wasn't a good English word for the meaning of the greek word porneia, as porneia really means "unlawful, by God's law, sexual misconduct or promiscuity that was subject to capital punishment by means of stoning or if you were the daughter of a Levite, burning to death." This included incest (marriage to a close relative), fornication of a betrothed woman, etc. Divorce wasn't necessary since the law of God demanded the above capital punishment as we can see from the story of Jesus and the adulterous woman and Old Testament laws. It was unlawful to divorce for unlawful sexual sins. One couldn't even get forgiveness for this sin, like giving a sacrifice for the sin. There was no sacrifice for this sin. It was that much of an abomination to God, as we can see how he feels towards the children of Israel when they were unfaithful, expressed so fully in the books of the prophets. The Romans permitted the Jews to stone etc for religious infractions (like Paul killing the Christians), but the Jews gave Jesus over to the Romans for a so called "evil doer" civil infraction. Thanks be to God, for Jesus amazing atonement for our sins, as we repent and turn from our sin. This is truly Good News. We CAN find forgiveness ... on the other side of our repentance. That's God's only requirement, repentance: "Go! And sin no more!"Teresa R.https://www.blogger.com/profile/01062347788776865999noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2538057051911243767.post-55112001250060685662018-12-13T08:48:20.882-05:002018-12-13T08:48:20.882-05:00Economics (sustaining life) was also a factor impa...Economics (sustaining life) was also a factor impacted the "staying power" of marriages at the turn of the century. Men worked, women cared for the household. It took both to survive. Divorce would produce a fate for either party which would place much greater stress in day to day living. Georgehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07263249384889266326noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2538057051911243767.post-72805286078545760472018-09-25T02:34:44.620-04:002018-09-25T02:34:44.620-04:00A very interesting post!A very interesting post!Katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02545066475143875152noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2538057051911243767.post-81035022907790287842018-08-25T17:04:45.097-04:002018-08-25T17:04:45.097-04:00I was amazed to read that in the 50's the divo...I was amazed to read that in the 50's the divorce rate was so high. I was born in the 50's and you just never heard of any other children whose parents were divorced, and no adults my parents knew got divorced. Dianahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09691960326705784143noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2538057051911243767.post-68732764949722711252018-08-25T07:32:39.679-04:002018-08-25T07:32:39.679-04:00this is wonderful and so insightful as me and my h...this is wonderful and so insightful as me and my husband ae going through tough times right now with his illness so theres a lot of stress. I need to be reminded that I need to make the effort to serve him as the Lord requires before thinking about myself. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03062876978826059606noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2538057051911243767.post-73135870763356043302013-10-26T23:59:58.680-04:002013-10-26T23:59:58.680-04:00I'm in a younger generation and your point is ...I'm in a younger generation and your point is very true that people aren't working as hard as they should on their marriages. But what I've also seen with friends is how easily the trap of infidelity is ruining marriages. Our generation thinks that opposite sex friendships are fine, connecting with old flames online is fine, and pornography is natural. Morals are changing and its hurting people and their marriages.Pepperhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02083788640415355860noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2538057051911243767.post-43338436325492050562013-09-04T23:36:07.561-04:002013-09-04T23:36:07.561-04:00Thanks, Becca.
Have a blessed week!
Gail : )Thanks, Becca.<br />Have a blessed week!<br />Gail : )Gail @ http://biblelovenotes.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17462629145629813283noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2538057051911243767.post-42143754532943296592013-09-04T23:01:04.401-04:002013-09-04T23:01:04.401-04:00Very interesting findings! I agree that the workin...Very interesting findings! I agree that the working hard thing back then likely applied to their marriages, helping make them stronger. It's sad how belittled marriage has become in today's society. Congrats on 42 years!Beccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00868699575132758063noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2538057051911243767.post-38150151184968363402012-10-06T11:46:12.813-04:002012-10-06T11:46:12.813-04:00Thanks for the confirmation and encouragement, Jud...Thanks for the confirmation and encouragement, Judith. I know you also know lots about having a good marriage. Gail @ http://biblelovenotes.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17462629145629813283noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2538057051911243767.post-28984915551527983242012-10-06T11:45:15.521-04:002012-10-06T11:45:15.521-04:00Love your analogy about marriage not being a trip ...Love your analogy about marriage not being a trip through the fast food drive through! So true. Thanks for sharing these insights.Gail @ http://biblelovenotes.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17462629145629813283noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2538057051911243767.post-20120299433399313972012-10-06T11:44:02.009-04:002012-10-06T11:44:02.009-04:00A good marriage example is a wonderful heritage. T...A good marriage example is a wonderful heritage. Thanks, GailGail @ http://biblelovenotes.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17462629145629813283noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2538057051911243767.post-51459324507916913772012-10-06T11:43:01.151-04:002012-10-06T11:43:01.151-04:00Thanks, Crystal, I'll have to check out some o...Thanks, Crystal, I'll have to check out some of your posts. Gail @ http://biblelovenotes.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17462629145629813283noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2538057051911243767.post-7864543839055495862012-09-25T23:39:39.068-04:002012-09-25T23:39:39.068-04:00This in my humble opinion is the key to improving ...This in my humble opinion is the key to improving marriage. Get post again, Gail. I haven't read a post of yours that wasn't excellent yet!!<br /><br />...when we needed to quit waiting for the other to make the first move and make it ourselves. <br /><br />Like anything worthwhile, marriage requires prayer, dying to self, endurance and patience. But it’s worth it. And when we don't feel like persevering for our husband's sake, we can persevere for the Lord.Judithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14303626433109140676noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2538057051911243767.post-83763180750348226192012-09-24T13:45:04.536-04:002012-09-24T13:45:04.536-04:00Thank you for this fabulous eye-opening post!!!! ...Thank you for this fabulous eye-opening post!!!! So true! Yes, a lasting marriage is not like a trip through the drive through of a fast food restaurant! :) Most folks today are not willing to put the resources into a good marriage. Too much emphasis is on self-fulfillment and getting what we want when we want it -- applies to children and adults in this age of instant gratification! Thanks for posting and for linking up with Marriage Monday over at Yes they are all Ours! :)busymomof10https://www.blogger.com/profile/16801397516931688515noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2538057051911243767.post-84898054204162656622012-09-24T09:20:00.854-04:002012-09-24T09:20:00.854-04:00I was blessed with the excellent example of my par...I was blessed with the excellent example of my parents who were married for 50 years when my senior dad went home to be with the Lord. By the grace of God, my husband and I determined to give our children the same gift and we were married for 27 years before he, too, went to be with the Lord. It is truly a gift to God to be able to do this and His grace that enables it coupled with a ton of prayer! LIfe is easier now in some ways and harder in others but God is our everlasting constant! <br /><br />Kaye Swain - SandwichINK For the Sandwich Generationhttp://www.sandwichink.com/grandparents-caregivers-christian-encouragement-verse-by-verse-bible-studies-praise-musicnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2538057051911243767.post-21248774835076628932012-09-22T20:42:48.373-04:002012-09-22T20:42:48.373-04:00Yes, I know this must have been true in some cases...Yes, I know this must have been true in some cases, and I certainly don't think women should be victims of abuse. Gail @ http://biblelovenotes.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17462629145629813283noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2538057051911243767.post-41803701796931435982012-09-22T20:02:58.185-04:002012-09-22T20:02:58.185-04:00I agree that there is less education on people tod...I agree that there is less education on people today about the fact that marriages aren't a barrel of fun all of the time and you have to work at it. I certainly was not prepared and I do wish that this was something taught and exemplified. However, I would also like to point out that there were women in horrible, violent and unmanageable situations back pre 1950's who did not get divorced because to leave their husbands meant losing their children and they had no means of supporting themselves. In this regard, I think times have changed for the better.librarymamanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2538057051911243767.post-24841440358607007462012-09-21T13:09:12.310-04:002012-09-21T13:09:12.310-04:00Thank-you, Joe. I appreciate the encouragement. Thank-you, Joe. I appreciate the encouragement. Gail @ http://biblelovenotes.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17462629145629813283noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2538057051911243767.post-74214853762601842292012-09-21T13:01:25.796-04:002012-09-21T13:01:25.796-04:00You've handled a sensitive subject with grace ...You've handled a sensitive subject with grace and a sense of groundedness.<br /><br />Congratulations on your 42 years of marriage! That takes a lot of work...a lot of love...and a lot of grace...Joe Potehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00128078440003054702noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2538057051911243767.post-18962467906441851132012-09-20T09:30:32.565-04:002012-09-20T09:30:32.565-04:00That's true, Carol, they didn't have time ...That's true, Carol, they didn't have time for late divorces. But stats show the median age for a first divorce now-a-days is 32 for men and 30 for women, and the average duration of those first marriages is 8 years. And since they married younger in the 1900s, I imagine it's more about values. And you're right about the stigma attached. It was definitely looked down on much more in the past than in our current culture. Gail @ http://biblelovenotes.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17462629145629813283noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2538057051911243767.post-34143830332608010142012-09-19T22:15:50.469-04:002012-09-19T22:15:50.469-04:00I agree with your post completely!! I've wrote...I agree with your post completely!! I've wrote similar blogs as well. :) Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10725978619759166413noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2538057051911243767.post-21817934430579607272012-09-19T21:41:12.613-04:002012-09-19T21:41:12.613-04:00No reason to be freaked out, Anonymous.
While mos...No reason to be freaked out, Anonymous.<br /><br />While most marriages go through periods that are lukewarm, it need not happen to yours if you are consistent and deliberate in two areas: dealing with your sins in relationship with the Lord and not assuming that your marriage will stay healthy without time and effort.<br /><br />I think I'll do a devotion on this subject...so be looking for it. Since you are freaked out, maybe others are as well. : )<br />Bless you, GailGail @ http://biblelovenotes.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17462629145629813283noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2538057051911243767.post-75966165020493623022012-09-19T20:33:50.995-04:002012-09-19T20:33:50.995-04:00Hi, young wife here, can you describe the periods ...Hi, young wife here, can you describe the periods of lukewarm in your marriage? It kinda freaks me out! Thanks , great post.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com