tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2538057051911243767.post2585189602825398501..comments2024-03-23T23:55:50.572-04:00Comments on Bible Love Notes: Bridges or Boundaries?Gail @ http://biblelovenotes.comhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17462629145629813283noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2538057051911243767.post-36248193188798657942021-09-13T21:23:17.349-04:002021-09-13T21:23:17.349-04:00I have studied a large selection of articles on th...I have studied a large selection of articles on the official Boundaries sites. I have purchased and studied two of the Boundaries books. I have researched the author's backgrounds and studied their explanations of their counseling. I have also seen families broken by boundary-makers who follow the Boundaries teachings.<br /><br />You say boundaries are not fences, but Henry Cloud, the author of Boundaries describes them exactly in that way: "We need to keep things that will nurture us inside our fences and keep things that will harm us outside." (online article: https://www.boundariesbooks.com/blogs/boundaries-blog/boundaries-let-the-good-in-and-keep-the-bad-out)<br /><br />And from my extensive research, the books are contradictory, but they definitely encourage readers to take on the role of victims, blaming others for their difficulties, in some cases cutting off relationship with family members, and in other cases giving people inflexible ultimatums. There are some good concepts in the books and articles, but they are deeply entangled with selfish blame-shifting.<br /><br />I believe that if Joseph had applied Boundaries to his life, he'd have spent his life wallowing in self-pity and would have refused to help his family. Gail @ http://biblelovenotes.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17462629145629813283noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2538057051911243767.post-74843411171304504872021-09-13T16:03:58.286-04:002021-09-13T16:03:58.286-04:00I don't think you understand the concept of bo...I don't think you understand the concept of boundaries. Boundaries are not fences keeping people out. They are simply the way we do not allow people to manipulate us or make plans for our lives. No matter what you friend expects you to do, you will not do it. If she kept you on the phone too long you would let her know you need to hang up.Those are boundaries. Sherylhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15743824706714385839noreply@blogger.com