She Didn't Know What to Say

comforting friends, don't be quick to give advice, Bible, Romans 12:15
During a personal difficulty, a close friend quit answering my emails. Years later I asked her why. 

“I didn’t know what to say," she said, "I didn't have any answers for you."

Like this friend, I used to think the best way to help a troubled friend was to give advice.

But going through my own struggles has helped me realize that the best "answers" are usually not answers.

Friends who said, “I’m sorry. I’ll pray for you,” were the greatest comfort and help. Their prayers helped me hear from the one Friend who never disappoints, never is too busy, and always knows exactly what to say!

“God always does just what he says, and he is the one who invited you into this wonderful friendship with His Son…” 1 Corinthians 1:9 (NLT)

If your friend is struggling with problems, don't give her answers unless God clearly prompts you to do so. But Let her know you care by listening and caring (Romans 12:15). And pray that God will give her the answers she needs.
copyright Gail Burton Purath, 2011 

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1 comment:

  1. I've been there. Both in not knowing what to say and on the other side of just needing some not to fix my problem (because in reality that's not what I needed) I needed someone to love all over me and offer to pray an intercessory prayer for me. To reach out to our Heavenly Father and ask on my behalf to soothe my soul. I hope in the first case I've gotten better at being an encourager. On the second piece well I want to give as much grace to the one who wants to "fix my issues" because they are only trying to help. Thanks for this moment of reflection.


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