The Blame Game

Fifth Commandment, Honoring parents
For years I was a “speck-finder”—a Pharisee who went beyond Scripture by creating impossible rules, regulations, and expectations for my parents. 

Modern psychology has helped us blame our parents for our insecurities, failures, weaknesses and sins. 

In fact, we usually get so busy evaluating, psychoanalyzing, and judging our parents that we overlook our own mistakes and sinful behavior toward our parents. 

Worst of all, we dishonor our Perfect Parent when we dishonor the Fifth Command. 

This command is:
  • One of the Father’s “Top Ten” (Exodus 20:12)
  • A New Testament Command (Ephesians 6:2,3)
  • It has no age limit or excuse attached, only a promise if we obey.
God expects us to be “log-removers,” not “speck-finders” in all of our relationships, but especially in our relationship with our parents. 

“First get rid of the log from your own eye; then perhaps you will see well enough to deal with the speck in your [parent's] eye.” Matthew 7:5 (paraphrased)

May we ask God's help in doing this!
© copyright Gail Burton Purath, 2011 

Some additional resources that will help you learn how to honor your parents:
4 Ways to Honor Parents by Dennis Rainey
Honoring Difficult Parents by Sabrina Beasley McDonald

Adults and the Fifth Commandment by Gail Purath
Honoring Your Parents: Are You Helping or Hindering Your Spouse? by Dennis Rainey

God Didn't Ask the Impossible, only the Incredibly Difficult   an article written from a Jewish perspective with good thoughts for the Christian as well

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  1. Thank you for the reminder to honor my parents.

    1. It's something I like to remind myself of as well, Judith. My parents are dead, but I still have my husband's parents.


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