Didn't Want to Do It, But Did It Anyway!

returning good for evil, responding in the opposite spirit, being generous to stingy person
She was stingy and inconsiderate... again.  

I thought of ways I could be stingy in return.  Then I read this verse: 
Do not be overcome by evil, 
but overcome evil with good.
Romans 12:21
It took a while to get my mind wrapped around God's words and realize it wasn't right to treat her the same way she'd treated me.

But I was having trouble forgiving her, and that's why I think God prompted me to go one step further. Why not move in the opposite spirit and be generous toward her?  So I thought of something generous to do and did it.

It's interesting--my generosity didn't change her...but it changed me--I felt better and I was able to forgive.  I thought I was blessing her, but I was actually blessing myself! 
© copyright Gail Burton Purath, 2011
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  1. good for you! This is what I keep preaching to my kids...when they are mean to each other their first reaction is to be mean back... always better to be nice....

  2. Gail...this nugget of truth is powerful. It is not easy to do the right thing but the result is always to our benefit because God is faithful. You acted as a good and faithful servant should in that situation. Thank you for the encouragement and for sharing at WJIM.

  3. Great word. Not always easy, that's true, but what a blessing when we obey! Thanks!

  4. I really needed this reminder today...even though it's a principle I still struggle with, these little well-placed reminders are always a powerful push in the right direction. Thank you!

  5. Thank you for the post. It is so easy to just repay evil with evil...repaying evil with good is an act of obedience that requires the help of the Holy Spirit and the strength that only Christ can provide. thank you for the great lesson. I'm visiting from Haven of Rest link up. Blessings!

  6. Oh, I needed this today!! Thank you so much for this timely post.

    Thank you, also, for linking up with me at WholeHearted Home Wednesdays over at Haven of Rest. How pleasant it is to read your posts each day. Such a blessing, Gail!!

    1. I love how you said it didn't change her but it changed YOU and blessed YOU! Amen!

      Thanks so much for linking up to the "Making Your Home Sing Monday" linky party today! :)

  7. I've experienced this many times in my life, Gail. I've felt a cold shoulder or even an unkind response repeatedly from some people. Recently, I've made it my goal to be especially kind to a certain gal who "fits that description." And I have to say, she's finally coming around and being much more receptive and friendly with me. I think it's probably an indication of just how wounded she is (the cold behavior) and being kind sometimes cracks through that tough exterior. As you've pointed out, it doesn't always do that, but maybe it's just one more kind act away--so why stop? Thanks for this great encouragement!

  8. Dear Gail
    I had a similar experience with someone very close to me! Once I started loving this person regardless, I stopped expecting her to love me with a kind of love she wasn't able to love me! Our Lord filled my heart with unconditional love towards her.
    Much love x

  9. Wow! I can't tell you how much I needed this today. I've been letting bitterness seep in towards a 'friend' and I really needed this conviction. Your words blessed me today!
    Thank you for this great encouragement!!

  10. You don't know how much I needed this especially today! Thank you for sharing!

  11. I've done this with my M-I-L for 25 years, hee-hee!
    Have a great weekend! :)

  12. This is such truth - and it always does change us doesn't it?

  13. It is amazing how extending kindness to somebody who is difficult transforms not only them, but us. Or maybe especially us! This is a wonderful reminder that I think we all need on occasion! Thank you and I am so grateful that you linked up last week at Walking Redeemed!

  14. I so needed to hear this today. I am to quick to return evil for evil. I need to seek God out in my responses to pain and attacks.

    1. Hi Michelle,
      I'm always blessed to hear when God uses something I've written to speak to someone's heart.
      Thanks for encouraging me today.
      Gail : )

  15. I had a best friend of 29 years. We were prayer partners and just enjoyed one another's company. Our husbands worked out of town, so
    we could take off to eat out after she got off work, or do some shopping.. I was going through a dry spell spiritually and slacking
    off on my Bible study and prayer time. One day she said, "I have been asking God to give me a prayer partner." Oh, that stabbed me in the heart. Then I remembered I had prayed God would send her a prayer partner. How ironic. I was devastated and hurt for like 6 weeks. I never too her how hurt I was, after all she had the right to ask for
    a new partner. We still got together for our coffee time and she
    never did catch on I was harboring ill feelings and did not seem to notice I was cool toward her. The good news is, I got over my hurt,
    and we carried our friendship to a new level until she died. My friend
    is in Heaven now. She was so intent on being totally ready to meet the Lord, and she never wanted anything to stand between Him and her. When I got word she was found dead in her chair, open Bible on her lap, and her one request of the Lord, "Please let me die with dignity.:
    Being a dialysis patient she required 3 times a week, she knew the chances of be hospitalized and just wanted to be home. Look what our
    Lord did for her. He took her from her fully clothed, sitting position and she was found in dignity. I was the most blessed person for allowing God to let it work itself out. One day I will see her again. This is a little off topic, yet it is so important for us to do all we can to keep peace. God bless everyone...And Gail... God bless you.


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