Are You a Selfish Blogger?

 “I want millions of page views, followers, and subscribers!”
This sometimes runs through my mind, I'm ashamed to say

I started Bible Love Notes last July, and since that time I’ve noticed attitudes in myself and fellow Christian bloggers that disturb me. 

I’ve found that even if I'm doing ministry, I can get jealous, greedy, and self-serving. 

So I’m writing this post for myself as well as fellow bloggers to whom it applies. I wonder what the Christian blogosphere would be like if we all genuinely focused on glorifying God! 


1. How do you judge your success—by page views, subscribers and number of comments? Or do you get your feedback from the Lord and His purposes for your blog? 

2. When you find a blog more popular than yours, do you feel a twinge of jealousy or happiness for this fellow blogger? 

3. Is promoting your blog the focus of your time on facebook and Twitter? When was the last time you posted the link of another blog? Do you spend any time on social networks encouraging friends, family and fellow bloggers; or is it all about blog/book/product-promotion? 

4. Blog Hop Rules—When you join a blog hop, do you do what the host blogger asks, or do you think her requests/rules don’t apply to you? Perhaps you follow the “letter of the law” by making the link to the hop the tiniest font possible so no one will notice it.

5. Blog Hop Fellowship—Do you join the hop strictly to increase your page views or are you interested in the community—reading, commenting and encouraging other bloggers? 

6. Using People or Events--Do you ever think about a relationship or activity on the basis of how much you can promote your blog? 

On the flip side, have you ever prayed for a fellow blogger when you've read her post? Have you ever thought of ways you could encourage her or help promote her blog? 

I’m finding that I sometimes do things in cyber-community that I'd never do in real life—selfishly promoting my blog and my interests without thinking of others. 

But I want that to change--I want to be interested, encouraging and helpful to other bloggers, popular veteran bloggers and new bloggers alike. I want my blogging to be a reflection of God’s Spirit within me, not a reflection of greed, jealousy and selfishness. 

This is my new blogging paraphrase of a verse I memorized years ago: 
“Do nothing on your blog out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider other [bloggers] better than yourselves. Each of you should look not only to your own [blog and ministry] interests, but also to the [blog and ministry] interests of others.” Philippians 2:3-4 

What do you think? Do you identify with anything I've said?
 published 2/20/12. And since that time, I've continually had to review, repent and refresh my attitudes as I blog. (11/28/12)

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42 comments:

  1. All great questions to ask when writing a post! May God be the one glorified in everything we do!

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  2. Thank you, Gail for asking these questions. At the end of last year, I was asking myself these same questions and now I believe He is leading my website even more than before. I check stats out, but they don't reflect what I write anymore. Praise God.

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  3. Are you in my head?!?!? Thank you so much for putting into words what I only had a small inkling of was going on in my own world. It's amazing how all things that are noble can be taken and twisted and used for evil. My best intentions can work against me. Thank you so much for this. Great post.

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  4. Beautifully to the point. I find it a constant struggle because my ambition gets out of control! I love your Philippians paraphrase. I'm going to tape it next to my computer. Thanks!

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  5. Your points are very valid. I'm trying to let God speak to me and direct my writing. But I need to remind myself about the time spent online - is it for His good? Thanks for your thoughts. (visiting from Ann's blog today)

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  6. Woohoo!!! That was awesome.

    Love, love love it!

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  7. I LOVE this and have been thinking the same things lately! My absolute favorite thing about blogging is being able to share amazing, God-glorifying posts and resources from OTHER bloggers. It's one of the big reasons I started blogging in the first place! And although I got caught up at first with the idea of increasing traffic and counting comments, I decided long ago not to worry about it. I don't even look at the stats anymore because it leads me down a wrong path mentally. I'm blogging for an audience of One and praying I bless others in the process! Thanks so much for this post! Fantastic reminders for me and a caution to keep my focus where it belongs.

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  8. Have so dealt with some of the questions you raise. Thank you for being brave enough to put it out there!

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  9. Awesome post! May I feature this next week Tuesday?

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    1. Jacinda, I'd be honored to have you feature it. I love your blog and so appreciate your blog hop. Thanks so much for all the ministry you do. May God continue to bless it! Gail

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  10. Gail, I am just so thankful to read this. I also have struggled to find where the Lord would have me fit into all this. At 60 (in one week), I am slow and I have no clue about much, but i am learning ever so slowly. In the process, I have managed to keep my family first, but there are days when the evil one has attacked to get my mind away from my first love. Yes, Lord, forgive me! This is exactly where I believe Satan will attack what the Lord would have to be a powerful tool for good. Would you consider allowing me to share this some time when my parent's home is being cleaned out? I will need something to help me while I am closing her home. She is almost 2 hours away and I will be gone a lot. It would be an honor to have you guest post. In Him, Jacqueline

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    1. Jacqueline, I'd be glad to let this be a guest post on your blog. Just let me know when you plan to use it. I can send you the text or html. I just took a look at your blog and it looks great. I plan to go back and visit it soon. By the way, I'll turn 61 this July. Gail

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    2. You gals make me feel young!! I am only 57 (in a world a blogging ladies who look younger every year!!)

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  11. Gail,

    This was so beautifully written. I was just speaking with my husband about this lately. I have recently put blogging (as well as linking up my posts to lists) recently on the backburner...mainly for reasons such as what you just listed. Sometimes we can get distracted from the "greater purpose" due to all of the other things that we can get caught up with in blogging :)...you so elegantly addressed...I appreciate your blog very much, and have been a follower since you invited me several weeks ago. You share SO MUCH wisdom (as usual). I do enjoy the "community" feel as well, and appreciate those that promote that more than "numbers"...I feel you do that well :)...thank you! Like you said, it is not a competition...thanks for this post.

    Erin

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  12. I came across this post from the Titus 2sday link up. I love what you had to say! I struggle myself also with my blog posts and find myself wondering if I am going about things the wrong way. Thank you for posting this!

    Nicole
    :)

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  13. GREAT post - I love this part:

    "This is my new blogging paraphrase of a verse I memorized years ago:
    “Do nothing on your blog out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider other [bloggers] better than yourselves. Each of you should look not only to your own [blog and ministry] interests, but also to the [blog and ministry] interests of others.” Philippians 2:3-4"

    Amen Sista!!!
    Keep walking with the King!
    Courtney

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  14. Great post. So many true things! I like your prompts, and I know we probably have all been guilty of at least a few of them at times. Thanks for sharing this. :-)

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  15. Very wise words! Love this post. I wrote one based on similar thoughts a couple months ago. This post should be a mandatory read for every Christian blogger!

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  16. Thank you for posting this! It's so important to be reminded that our blogging should be to encourage others, not to bring ourselves glory or attention. Very convicting!

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  17. Well, I'm only three months into blogging, and I confronted my own greed for attention immediately. God really spoke to me that I need to be a servant to people with my words. It changed my attitude immediately when I simply started asking the question, "What do my readers need?????"

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  18. Yes, such good thoughts, and ones I re-evaluate from time to time as a blogger. I just recently spent some time with God this week, asking Him, again, to refresh my perspective. So easy to get pulled into focusing on self in the blog world. Thanks for your encouraging thoughts here. And fun for me to find another grandma blogger!

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  19. Ouch, blog hop rules. That's a little convicting. I keep meaning to update my webpage with buttons. I wrote a similar post to this not too long ago. And I was really convicted last week about about some words I chose to say in cyber space, Praise God he's forgiving!

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  20. I have seen the selfishness too. And have to admit I do feel that twinge of jealousy from time to time. But as I have gotten to know other bloggers, personally chatting - not just through their blogs - I have found that feeling lessen.

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  21. This is fantastic. It's amazing how we can get so caught up in the stuff that doesn't matter about our blogs and lose complete focus (or some focus) of who does matter -- God. It's sad. We must be loving to one another. I'll be sharing this article on our ministry's Facebook page among others.

    I like the scripture at the end too! Blessings always.

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  23. Mind if I promote my blog in your comments? I'm kidding of course. Great article about what's really important in what we write. Jesus only Jesus. Tweeting your blog post as soon as I hit Publish.

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  24. Love how you paraphrased that verse! I'll have to print that one out:) I couldn't agree more.

    Sometimes we can even get out of balance the other way too. There are times when I spend too much time reading and commenting on other people's blogs, and socializing, that I neglect the ministry God has for me. So following the Holy Spirit is key.

    Thanks so much for this post! Blessings to your ministry:)

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    1. Your right, Amanda, we can get off center both ways...good point!

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  25. Hi! I'm new to blogging and so appreciate you taking time to write out some tips and ideas on your blog to help me learn some things. Blessings to you! I signed up to get your 1-minute devotions by email. I am looking forward to a quick shot of encouragement Monday - Friday :)

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    1. Thanks so much, Angie, for joining me on my "journey" by subscribing. And I hope the blog tips will be a blessing to you. Gail

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  26. Fantastic post. Thank you for having the courage and integrity to post this.

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  27. A wonderful post!! I am sure that these things could take hold as you (or I) watch the 'followers' list rise in numbers. It isn't numbers but should be just the ones God wants us to affect for His glory. Thanks for taking the time to share this.

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  28. I can definitely identify Gail and I love the personalized scripture at the end there. I have to do reality checks every so often to let myself know, "I started my blog to get out ideas, have fun, and most of all glorify God!" If my behaviors run away from that, some work in my heart needs to be done!

    ~Nicole, Working Kansas Homemaker

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  29. This sooo resonates in my mind "Do nothing on your blog out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider other [bloggers] better than yourselves. Each of you should look not only to your own [blog and ministry] interests, but also to the [blog and ministry] interests of others.” Philippians 2:3-4
    As a "newbie" to the Blog world as far as my own blog at first I sort of got wrapped up in the visits or the comments, or better yet having no comments at all. Then it hit me that I have been blog hopping (stalking) for a couple years. Rarely ever did I comment on what may have touched me or spoke to me..Always wanting to start one of my own, yet to fearful of what others may think. I actually joined blogger in 2008 yet never posted til last year. Now I could beat myself up because I could have posted my journey through a personal struggle along with the postings of my daughters senior year. I do my best not to let the enemy use the no comments or lack of visits to bother me..... In my very first post I had no clear cut reason as to why I started a blog. Other than wanting to keep sort of a virtual scrapbook of our family...since I am not cut out for traditional scrapbooking! Thanks for sharing this...and may anyone that reads this remember that we are to encourage one another in our walk with the Lord. Have a blessed time in Croatia!

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    1. You make so many good points, Piper. It really is easy to get trapped by the number of views and comments on our blogs. And it's amazing because sometimes I think something I've written was really from the Lord, and I don't get a single comment. Other times I don't feel what I've written is that good, and I gets lots of comments. : )
      In the end you just need to write for the Lord.
      Thanks for sharing.

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  30. I do focus on page views a lot, as I am trying to build my blog in hopes that it will become an income source for my family, so I can continue to remain at home full-time. Having said that, I do try to keep things in perspective and control the twinge of jealousy I feel when another blogger has gotten their "big break" or seem to have one success after another. I do pray for other bloggers when I feel compelled by the Holy Spirit to do so. I also have two ads on my blog that I didn't charge for. I follow blog hop rules as closely as I can: I don't put the buttons on my page as it can look "cluttered" to me, but I do include a link to the hops and don't decrease the font... It's the same size as my regular font. I also try to read the posts of others who link up as much as I have time for, but would be online all day if I read and commented on each one.

    I say all that to say that I am trying to keep the proper balance between building/promoting my blog and building/promoting other blogs.

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  31. AMEN - this is something I was thinking about this morning. I was questioning if I wanted followers for the sake of gaining popularity - or do I want encourager's in the Lord whom I can get to know better and grow in the Lord with? Quality or quantity?

    I started my blog to glorify God and I want to continue with the right motives; however, it's all so easy to get caught up blog building for the wrong reasons... I know, I've already found myself being drawn in and had to examine my heart just recently!

    I work during the week and find it difficult keeping up with the lovely comments I receive from time to time. What do I do? Do I close off comments and the opportunity for prayer ministry (i.e. I pray for my visitors, and those who comment at the end of each week usually). I just have to leave it with the Lord and hope that people understand and discern my heart intentions.

    My first and most important ministry is to the Lord i.e. prayer and study of His Word; husband next (I've no family); home next and ministry, i.e. church and blog after this. Whatever time is left, I try to visit as many other blogs and people who've commented. I was on holiday recently and used a lot of my time to visit my faithful encouragers. It was lovely, but I cannot afford time to do so regularly (but when I can - I do).

    I'm relatively new to Link ups and loving meeting new people... it's great!

    Thank you for all YOUR help and guidance to date... it has been truly valuable, and I will be adding this post to my list of favourite weekly blogger posts (I hope you don't mind)? I don't want to lose it, plus it's a post which will be good to visit often!!!!!

    Wendy

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    1. Wendy, I think the fact that you are evaluating your attitudes and asking yourself questions is important. I think we all need to "struggle well" to keep our perspective right.

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  32. I found you today from Fellowship Fridays and somehow found this post. I really loved it. I will be re-visiting it again soon. You gave me a lot of food for thought!

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  33. Not to sound like a foreign spammer or anything, :) but "you have made some very interesting points!" My main involvement has been with other "grandma bloggers" and I must say that I have never encountered a more loving, supportive community than they are. Gail, I think you know the group I refer to because you are part of it! I have offered many prayers on their behalf ranging from recovery of a lost dog (success!) to a current serious health issue for a husband. I confided in one who prayed with me for a healthy delivery for a daughter who has a defective heart valve (again - success!)
    I would like to atate though, that being "forced" to follow link party CO-hosts - in some cases 6 or more (!) is annoying to me and I have been declining to participate. I have no interest in some blog topics and don't expect all others to enjoy mine either. Why force fake-number-build-up for both of us?

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    1. Yes, J, I appreciate the "grandma bloggers" as well. Maybe we realize how important community is at our age. And I've also been blessed to pray with other bloggers, sometimes making closer connections than with friends I see face-to-face. But I love hearing about your answers to prayer. Thanks for stopping by and making meaningful comments : )

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